The OCS individual is constantly criticized, so I would like to clear the air for my fellow only children...in list form (of course)
1. We get what we want. Yes we do. BUT, we work hard for it. We deserve what we get. We get nice things, but remember its because we worked our tails off for it. We believe in the finer things in life, and we KNOW we deserve them.
2. We are spoiled by others around us. Lets be serious here. How can we help it if OTHERS spoil us? Haha, that sounded ridic - but really, we dont beg for things. We just get them. Maybe its peoples way of making up for the fact that it is "just us" in this world - no siblings to share with or to lean on.
3. We have to know EVERY DETAIL of EVERYTHING. We are going to dinner? WHERE? WHAT TIME? and the infamous...WHO IS GOING TO BE THERE? Alright, I have no defense in this. Seeing it written out makes me realize it is a bit silly.
4. Our values tend to be different than our peers. Sometimes we are seen in a negative light because of this. Work is very important...we do whatever it takes to get there and to get far. Friends are important as well as family. However, not in the way that our peers view.
5. We have learned to trust in ourselves. We have been burned. A lot. We dont have the support of siblings with family issues. We dont have the sibling you can tell anything to, that will be there no.matter.what. We have ourselves. It may sound sad, but hey - we are used to it.
6. We want the best for others around us. Compulsive people pleasers. At times can can backfire. It can be irritating to others, and hard on ourselves. People can take advantage, or not like being cared for in sometimes an "over the top" manner.
7. We LOVE our online time. We grew up alone, and are used to that. Never had to share our rooms with someone else. Alone time is crucial for us to recharge.
Next time you say "gosh he/she is SUCH an only child"...remember thats not always a bad thing. We are just misunderstood. Things are not GIVEN to us. Things dont just fall into our laps. We learned to be successful in order to get what we want.
We arent rubbing that success in others faces. We care about our fiends, family and even sometimes our foes more than we care about our own well-being. If I were you, I would give your little OCS sufferer a big fat kiss next time to see them, and remind them how fierce they really are :)
Here is me & my FAV fellow OCS sufferer
